Many young people feel that being “good enough” is not enough. They want perfect grades, an attractive body, a successful career, and an exciting social life. However, this pressure is not simply a personal problem. Research shows that perfectionism among young adults has increased over time.
A 2026 study examined more than 82,000 college students in the United States, Canada, and the United Kingdom. The data came from studies conducted between 1989 and 2024. Researchers found that young people have become more afraid of failure and more worried about other people’s opinions. These feelings have increased especially quickly since the early 2000s. (apa.org)
There are several possible reasons. First, education and work have become highly competitive. When good jobs and financial security seem difficult to reach, young people may believe that they must work harder and make fewer mistakes. The study also found connections between economic inequality and the fear of being judged negatively.
Parents can add pressure, too. Most parents want their children to succeed, but high expectations may make children feel that love and approval depend on their results. If a student believes, “My parents will only be proud if I get the highest score,” failure can feel frightening. (apa.org)
Social media can make this situation stronger. Young users often see carefully chosen photos of beautiful bodies, happy relationships, and successful lives. A study of 3,424 Norwegian high school students found a connection between perfectionism and focusing strongly on online self-presentation and comparison. However, social media is not the only cause: the rise in perfectionism began before social media became common. (link.springer.com)
Wanting to improve is healthy, but demanding perfection is different. Young people need spaces where mistakes are accepted as part of learning. Instead of asking, “Was I perfect?” they can ask, “What did I learn?” Success does not require a perfect life. Sometimes, making progress and being kind to yourself are more valuable than never making a mistake.










