Many young people feel that being “good” is not enough. They believe they must get the highest grades, choose the best career, look attractive, and have an exciting life. Why has this desire for perfection become so strong?
A major study published in 2026 examined more than 82,000 college students in the United States, Canada, and Britain. It found that perfectionism increased between 1989 and 2024. In particular, students became more afraid of failure, mistakes, and negative opinions from other people. The researchers connected this change with stronger competition, slower economic growth, and greater inequality. When good opportunities seem limited, young people may feel that they cannot afford to make mistakes. (apa.org)
Pressure can also come from parents and schools. Many adults want children to have a safe and successful future. However, high expectations may give young people the message that their value depends on their results. A student may begin to think, “If I do not succeed, I will disappoint everyone.”
Social media adds another kind of pressure. Young users often see carefully chosen photos of beautiful faces, perfect rooms, and successful lives. A 2025 study of 1,697 European teenagers found a connection between seeing positive-looking social media content and higher perfectionism. However, this does not mean that social media is the only cause. Perfectionism was already increasing before social media became popular. (journals.sagepub.com)
Wanting to improve is not always bad. High goals can help us study and grow. The problem begins when every small mistake feels like a serious failure. Perfectionism is also connected with anxiety and depression in young people. (pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov)
A healthier goal is not “perfect” but “better than yesterday.” Young people can focus on effort, accept small mistakes, and remember that online life is not the whole truth. Success is valuable, but no grade, job, or photograph can measure a person’s complete value.










